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Hi Girls!

Girlspiration is your go-to place for encouragement, confidence, true Girl Power stories and important reminders filled with positivity & love. Being a girl isn't easy sometimes and the pressures can be overwhelming. BUT, here's the great news! You are never alone!! When I was cyber-bullied in middle school I felt alone and wished their had been an organization like Girls Above Society. At age 15, I created and founded Girls Above Society and 13 years later, (SO exciting) I'm still on a mission to give every girl the tools and mentorship needed to become confident, kind and cyber-smart. 

Sometimes we just need our voices to be heard along with a gigantic boost to keep going and focus on the good. I'm covering it all here in Girlspiration. Girl Drama, Friendships, Social Media, Pressures, and the list goes on and on. 

Have an idea or want to hear my thoughts on a certain topic? Connect with us! Your idea/story just might be featured! Click on the Girls Above Society logo at the top of this page. It will re-direct you to our home page. You'll find our contact info at the bottom of the page. We're excited to hear from you!

XOXO Lauren

 

Updated: Feb 6, 2021


Walking down the halls of middle school can leave us feeling a little anxious sometimes. Us girls can get lost in comparing ourselves to peers and before we know it, we can overthink our body image. Some girls mature faster than others and while we realize this is perfectly normal, we still beat ourselves up for not looking like we think we should. When we read those words out loud, it does seem a little dramatic. Well, what SHOULD we look like anyway? The answer is pretty simple...we should look like our original best self that will go through expected changes over time. Unfortunately, that is not an easy answer and because girls are pretty judgmental of each other, this "drama" causes us to be hypersensitive to our bodies during our most changing years.



It's super normal to wonder "Why are her breasts bigger than mine?" UGH, is that a zit on my chin?" When will I get my period?"


See what we are doing? We are looking to our peers and rating ourselves based on differences we cannot control. This mindset can quickly become toxic and cause way more unnecessary stress! How do we rid ourselves of this awful mindset? While there is no sure cure, I've got some ideas that might help.



Think about popcorn! All the kernels go into the hot oil. Some pop right away and others take their time but in the end they all pop. Some kernels are larger than others but they are still awesome! There will be girls who seem like they look older or are more developed. I was always short and I used to say my body looked like a 12 year old boy. There are certain things we cannot control. When we have the confidence to let it go and love ourselves, life gets easier.


Some things we CAN change. If you are feeling like you could lose a few pounds, do it! Try walking or take up jogging or ride your bike. Get moving!! You'll feel better and anytime we can work towards a goal that gives us a higher self-esteem, I say YES YES YES! Eat healthier when you can and grab a BFF to go on the journey with you, if that helps you to stay motivated and held accountable. Once you get going, you'll be so glad you did. That being said, always make sure you consult with a trusted adult or a doctor about your goals. The most important thing is your health - both mental and physical. Make sure you are educated on how to reach your goals while still keeping your health in check.



Change can be awesome and rewarding but ONLY if we do it for the right reasons. Think about all the time (hours, days, weeks...) girls spend trying to look and act like someone else. It's pretty mind boggling...right? Create change for YOU. I cannot stress this enough. Trust me, others are not microscopically looking at you all the time (even though it may feel like it) and those that matter will never exclude you for your body image.


One more thing. In a few years you will look back and realize all the judgement, drama, and stress only got in the way of having fun, making awesome memories and staying grounded by hanging out with like-minded peers. When I was in high school, I created Girls Above Society and some of my friends, or who I thought were real friends, judged me for working towards a goal. Some even said things like, "Why are you wasting your time on something that lame?" It stung, not going to lie, but I am SO glad that I kept going and didn't allow the negative judgement to stop me from creating change.


In all honesty, I spent a lot of time trying to fit in and look like the popular girls, and I did my fair share of feeling like I wasn’t good enough. Looking back, I'd love to take that time back and fill it up with better friends, more time loving myself, and even more time kicking butt at anything I put my mind towards. The world truly is your oyster, so go out there and be YOUR best, not everyone else's best. XOXO Lauren





Updated: Feb 6, 2021





Do you ever feel like the piles of homework (some we don't even understand), two tests coming up in the same week, drama with friends, extracurricular activities such as sports, cheer, dance, etc., and chores at home seem like just too much? The good news is you are not alone and the bad news is stress, well, it's here to stay unless we send it away and learn to keep it away for good.


Sometimes life can seem like a dinosaur sitting on your head! Everything can seem too difficult and at any moment the tears might start flowing. It's OK to feel this way sometimes but super important that we tackle what seems the impossible with some major Girl Power.



SLEEP - You might think this is crazy but a really good night's sleep is SO important. If you scroll on social media before you go to bed, make a new habit to stop. Screen time right before you head off to dreamland can be very disruptive and contribute to your stress. It's a hard habit to break, but once you do, you'll be so thankful and begin to wake up extra refreshed to tackle the day ahead of you. If you just can’t stop scrolling (I know, I get it), try ordering some blue light blocking glasses. They help protect your eyes from screens and plus they look super cute! Those little things that seemed super stressful will begin to seem quite insignificant after all. Tip: Put together a positive playlist and let that be your ticket to sweet dreams.




TALK IT OUT - I am always amazed at the new perspective when I talk it out. Choose a trusted BFF, parent, teacher, sibling, even your pet! It is never lame to talk about how you are feeling. Talking things through can really give us a clearer look at life and it helps us just get all our feelings out. Saying things out loud often sounds a lot different than what we keep bottled up in our head. Tip: If you love writing, this is another way to get those feelings out and organized. I've looked back and thought geez, how did I let myself get so stressed.


FUN - Make time for fun! Life needs balance. Think of a seesaw. If one person sits down and no one is on the other end what happens? The person sitting down falls to the ground. If someone is on the other end, you bounce a little and balance out. Take some time out just for you every day. Find a time that's quiet and do something fun. If you enjoy writing, do it! Play your fave song and sing or take a bubble bath. Whatever you enjoy, take 20 minutes and just do it. Scrolling through social media doesn't count! Bonus points if your fun activity involves exercise - it’s great for your body AND mind. Win win!




ONE THING AT A TIME - Juggling is not easy! I've tried it with lemons and completely failed. Make a list of things that need to be done and put them in order of importance. Think of it like Thanksgiving dinner. You've got your main dish, some sides, salad and maybe even some bread and dessert. Once you've got your tasks organized, start at the top and keep going down until you get to dessert. Then treat yourself because you've completed your list with as little stress as possible. Tip: A planner was my lifesaver in school. It kept me organized instead of trying to remember a million things in my head. THAT is stressful!! XOXO Lauren





Updated: Feb 6, 2021


At the age of 15 I decided to create my non profit, Girls Above Society. I had several friends who thought it was weird (Those who were negative fell off the friends list quickly). The hard work and effort really paid off and I am so glad I get to see Girls Above Society move forward & empower more girls each year.


The journey wasn't always fun or easy. There were times I hit a wall and couldn't find the traction. There were times that I felt alone while my friends posted on social media about all the fun times they were having. One thing I have learned is that if you have a passion, don't allow anyone to measure its worth. I used my inner Girl Power and only allowed those who supported me into my small circle. Yes, it was lonely at times, but when I think of all the girls who gain confidence and found their self worth because of Girls Above Society, everything else seems so small.

Anything worth doing comes with challenges. It's how we choose to face them that defines us and oftentimes, we surprise ourselves of just how strong we can be. Today, I still use that same inner Girl Power to reach goals big or small. When I am having a rough day, I lean on those I admire and love who remind me of the purpose in what can seem at the time - a big huge mess! Now, go out there and do YOU. Nix the Negativity & Naysayers! We're too busy doing awesome stuff. XOXO Lauren



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