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Hi Girls!

Girlspiration is your go-to place for encouragement, confidence, true Girl Power stories and important reminders filled with positivity & love. Being a girl isn't easy sometimes and the pressures can be overwhelming. BUT, here's the great news! You are never alone!! When I was cyber-bullied in middle school I felt alone and wished their had been an organization like Girls Above Society. At age 15, I created and founded Girls Above Society and 13 years later, (SO exciting) I'm still on a mission to give every girl the tools and mentorship needed to become confident, kind and cyber-smart. 

Sometimes we just need our voices to be heard along with a gigantic boost to keep going and focus on the good. I'm covering it all here in Girlspiration. Girl Drama, Friendships, Social Media, Pressures, and the list goes on and on. 

Have an idea or want to hear my thoughts on a certain topic? Connect with us! Your idea/story just might be featured! Click on the Girls Above Society logo at the top of this page. It will re-direct you to our home page. You'll find our contact info at the bottom of the page. We're excited to hear from you!

XOXO Lauren


The first time you step back into your school hallways, whether it’s a new school or old familiar school, anticipating those moments can make us feel a little anxious. Don’t worry. Lots of girls just like you are feeling those butterflies and I’m here to help ease you back into school with a new perspective and maybe a bonus boost of confidence.

Here’s the REAL Truth…

You are NOT alone. Your peers, some you call friends and some you haven’t met yet are going through the scenarios in their mind of how the 1st day will play out. No need to take notes (technically school’s not in session yet..) because I’m sharing all the details below.


It's super normal to worry about appearance, but before we get out of control, let’s keep a positive perspective. It's a fact, our bodies change and you might be experiencing acne for the first time or body development. The timing of these changes are different for all of us. Don’t forget, your friends are going through similar things. My best advice - Wear clothes that fit your style, not someone else’s. In all honesty, the biggest part of your “style” comes from the inside first! I say this all the time but don’t be afraid to have real convos with your friends/family about how you feel. I know for me, it’s been eye opening and reassuring to know I’m not alone.


When it comes to the social scene, making new friends is one of the biggest worries. Some of your friends may be in different classes or even different schools. It’s important to have a friend group but don’t lean towards just any group, be picky! Hanging out with popular girls can seem cool, but at what cost. Are these girls popular because they have a good social image or are they mean? It’s very normal to drift apart from old friends and create new friendships. Friendship evolution can come with some stress but only if you allow it. MEAN STINKS - Be nice to everyone regardless of rumors that float the hallways. You never know the whole story and gossip is the toxic talk that fuels even more hate. Taking the high road is not only good for yourself, it creates positive change that others see as well. Choose friends who are authentic, kind and supportive. Making friends might not happen on the first day…give it time. You’ll be glad you did! Remember: You don’t have to be part of the drama…you can choose to be part of the change for good.


Lunch is that much needed break from classes. If you’re like me, you look forward to eating, having some down time and hanging out with friends. Day 1 can be a little stressful as you may be wondering if you’ll see anyone you know to sit with. Some schools have assigned lunch seating. This definitely takes away the worries about who to sit with and it also gives you the chance to make some new friends. If your school has open seating and you find yourself feeling alone on day one, do not panic. Scan the lunchroom. If you don’t see anyone you know, ask another group if you can sit with them (It’s not as scary as you think!) or ask someone who is sitting alone! If you just want to sit alone, that’s awesome too! You can always busy yourself with a book while you’re eating lunch. Now that I’m older and look back, lunch is lunch - don’t stress too hard. No one remembers who you sit with. Mix it up and sit with different friends. You’ll be glad you did.

The 1st day of school marks a new beginning. You have the opportunity to start the school year with confidence and positivity. Use your strength to stay true to yourself regardless of what peers or social media has to say. Don’t get hung up on the details and remember that the school hallways never define you…That’s all up to YOU!

Have a beautiful 1st day of school ~ XOXO Lauren

When you look in the mirror, do you accept how you look?

This question is THE most important one when we measure our self esteem & confidence levels. This post is going to dive deep into social media, filters & how the original "selfie" has become the REVERSE "selfie".

Filter: something that has the effect of a filter (as by holding back elements or modifying the appearance of something)

Lighting, background & hair was altered. I went from bad lighting in my kitchen to looking glam in paradise. While this might be fun, I recognize this is NOT the real me!

Photo editing has become an open secret in the land of social media. Applications like Instagram, FaceTune & FaceApp have made it so easy for us to change the way we look ― through filters, retouching or a combination of both ― that it’s becoming harder to determine what’s real and what’s not. I would also argue the point that these apps are enabling us to perpetuate a fused blended expression of beauty, as opposed to celebrating raw, authentic individuality. Dove has launched #NoDigitalDistortion - This is a representation of how far retouching apps can distort beauty. #NoDigitalDistortion is Dove's movement to help build confidence and positive body image on social media.

90% of young women reported using filters or editing their photos to appear as if they had whiter teeth, weighed less, had a different nose, or other physical changes. (University of London's Gender and Sexualities Research Centre)

Just about everything is altered in this professional photo. Scroll down to see before/after. Photo Credit: ET Images


They’re fun!

They allow us to hide what we feel are imperfections.

Note: I personally love to embrace imperfections. We are not perfect so it seems quite natural and real. Deep thought question: Who decides what “perfect” means anyway? If every girl was “perfect” life would be very boring.

They enhance lighting because most of us don’t walk around with a camera crew! One of my favorite reasons to use a filter!


Constantly editing our photos and videos can slowly lead to feeling insecure when we look in the mirror. The less we see realistic images, the more reality becomes distorted when we see our image reflected to us in the mirror.


My goal is not to blame apps like FaceTune and Instagram or the people who create them. Instead, I want to raise awareness that these apps exist and people are using them to alter their faces to fit an ideal that has morphed into “reverse selfies”. Do we really want to look like clones of each other? The future of social media could potentially shift the selfie game in a negative way if we fail to acknowledge and celebrate the very things we are filtering out and what make us unique. My Girls Above Society GIRL TALK Curriculums are designed to give girls the tools needed to be confident, kind & cyber-smart. Social media and body image are issues discussed that spark crucial face-to-face convos. Today's young girls are tomorrow's leaders!

If you find yourself constantly feeling the need to alter your appearance through filters or apps, think about this. Being the best version of yourself has never been about looking like someone else. And being able to so easily change the makeup of your face or the makeup ON your face to look like somebody else or like a beauty norm or ideal, seems like a really toxic way of approaching who you are as a human being.

You are a human being, not a filter or application. Authentic is refreshing and REAL! When we meet someone in person, we do not have the ability to pop up a filter. We are without falsities, which is exactly how we should be.

Filters and face/body changing apps won’t change, however, when they are used with the right mindset, we as girls can stay confident, support each other and celebrate our awesome freckles, skin color, the shape and everything about our face and body. Filters filter out our authenticity. Our authentic Girl Power and effect on others when we support each other is more powerful than any filter ever created!

XOXO Lauren

From - A challenged world is an alert world. Individually, we're all responsible for our own thoughts and actions - all day, every day.

We can all choose to challenge and call out gender bias and inequality. We can all choose to seek out and celebrate women's achievements. Collectively, we can all help create an inclusive world.

From challenge comes change, so let's all #choosetochallenge.

I'm so happy to share some ways you can start today by working on your Girl Power skills so when you are faced with inequality or gender bias as a woman in the workplace, raising children, at home or in school, you'll have the courage to rise up and use your voice for good!

First, let's define challenge. Here's what Merriam Webster says.

:to arouse or stimulate especially by presenting with difficulties

// she wants a job that will challenge her

We all know that girls face some pretty tough pressures. Looking a certain way, acting a certain way, being the best, being the smartest, peer pressures, girl drama, and the list goes on and on. There's a lot of discussion about pressures and how girls are shaped by the media but I think there's a huge missing link about challenges in our conversations. How can challenges benefit today's girls? How do we really see challenges? Good vs Terrible? Let's dive a little deeper because going forward I think you just might change your mindset the next time you're confronted with a challenge!

Example A: You want to be popular so you try to hang out with the girls who are already popular. Problem 1: You don't really feel like you're having fun and the girls don't have much in common with you but you go along with the crowd. Problem 2: You have to decide if being popular rates higher than being genuine with BFF's who don't rank high in popularity.

Example B: No one in your family has big goals except yourself. Problem 1: Your family loves you but they just don't understand the support you need to reach higher. Problem 2: You feel life is easier if you just give up and go along with those you're surrounded with.

Example C: You're 100% geeked out on science and super smart in all classes. Problem 1: You struggle finding genuine/like minded friendships. Problem 2: You tend to overthink everything to the point that you don't get out much anymore.

Example D: You struggle in school and taking exams gives you anxiety. Problem 1: Failing grades on a regular basis makes you feel overwhelmed to the point you stop trying. Problem 2: You feel embarrassed to reach out for help.

ALL OF THE ABOVE SOLUTIONS ARE CHALLENGES! Inner challenges come with a hefty price tag and believe it or not, confidence will help you meet the challenge. Here's where we need to use our "Girl Power" to defeat the challenge once and for all. YOU have to decide to take that very first baby step towards empowerment when we are faced with difficulties. Defeat can seem like it hovers over us, especially when we're in a dark place BUT if you give yourself a chance, you will find the root of your tree has a million branches. Pressures????? Consider it a challenge and nix the negative "noise".

OK so you're wondering HOW right? Here's my authentic approach. I have spent over a decade listening to girls just like yourself. I created a GIRL TALK CURRICULUM that basically gives girls all the tools they need to navigate challenges and pressures. The curriculums are super fun and engaging. The BEST part was the conversations. Conversations create a spark and ignite ideas, support and encouragement. Girls realized (many for the 1st time) that they were not alone and they walked away with some new confidence they had never experienced. One of my challenges is to have GIRL TALK in every school for every girl regardless of race or economic impact. Until then, it's up to all of us to have those important convos.

CHALLENGE: Find someone (family, teacher, neighbor, counselor) or gather some BFF's, and be brave enough to TALK about challenges and pressures. This is so important! And before you even think it, you are never alone! I'm always up for emails and at the bottom of my home page there's a way to connect with me, so no excuses!

Individually, we are all responsible for our own thoughts and actions, all day every day.

Happy IWD to ALL the girls out there! We are the future so let's rise to the challenges together.

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